Like myself,  most of my girlfriends are either single or in a relationship and we have a few in between ones (the ones that are kinda seeing someone but haven’t put a label on it.) One evening we decided to go to Lincoln Rd, in Miami Beach to have dinner and like every other conversation we talked about the men and boys (yes, I know I’m petty, but you know I’m right) in our lives. One of my girlfriends mentioned just getting out of a meaningful relationship and didn’t want anything serious but she felt like the more she talked to this current guy the more she started to have feelings for him. Keep in mind she was very much aware that this current guy may not feel the same way about her.

As the conversation progressed, I ask her honestly what she wanted out of this current situation she replied, I want a casual thing nothing serious, I then told her honestly “girl, just take it for what it is.” Some would say, what do you mean by that Derby? Let me break it down.

Stop analyzing every message, every single word, and gesture. Take a “hello” for simply just a “hello”. The fact that he texts you all day Tuesday may just mean he had extra time on his hands that day and he wanted someone to talk to. It does not mean he wants to continue this pattern every single day, it does not mean he wants to be your boyfriend either. The fact that he took you out that night and you met his friends does not mean he wants to take things to next level because you met his friends, it does not mean the next step is meeting his parents lol. It may just be that he wanted to be around you and his friends that specific night. Be in the present, if today he texts you all day and makes plans to catch a movie – go and watch the movie and enjoy being in someone else’s company. But keep in mind tomorrow he may go ghost on you. Stop planning a future with a dude that was simply supposed to send you a few texts, take you on a few dates, possibly blow your back out and put a smile on your face. Take this day, this text, this date for what it is and nothing more. Enjoy the moment, girl you deserve to.

Be in the present and not the future. TAKE IT FOR WHAT IT IS…